I am beginning to understand that vacations can be grouped into at least three different categories – especially for those of us with large families! There were the vacations you took BEFORE kids during those early years of your marriage, the vacations you took WITH the kids and finally, those you have taken (or will take) AFTER your kids are gone – or are too busy to take with you!
For the two of us, we are now entering into the third phase of our vacations. We started having kids over 30 years ago and I can count on one hand the trips we have taken without any kids during these years. We’ve taken some great trips with our kids to beaches, mountains, national parks, historic cities and sites and amusement parks. Most of those trips where designed to keep kids happy, entertained, fed, well-rested and healthy. They have been fast paced, jam-packed and expensive – even when we tried to cut costs.
Our kids tell amusing stories to each other and their friends about “sneaking” into hotel and resort rooms 2 or 3 at a time because a few places where we stayed were not designed for a family of 5 kids under the age of 10 – just so we could all stay in the same room or condo. Other stories include when their little sister actually slept in a make-shift “bed” in the bathtub during one trip because there were not enough beds for all five girls! (Please don’t report us to the authorities!)
This year’s “Short Family Vacation” was actually planned during a time when we thought several of our girls would be able to join us at a beach-side location where several of them had expressed an interest in visiting again. However, when it got closer to the designated week for our vacation only one of our grown daughters and her roommate were able to join us – and for only a couple of days. Although slightly disappointing to us, we realize that our new reality is that our girls have moved out (except for our youngest who is a busy college senior) and are now very engaged with their lives and their time-off from work and family responsibilities may not coincide with our “Short Family Vacations”.
Similarly, I’ve heard others relate housing needs to these three vacation categories – BEFORE kids (starter homes), WITH kids (that house with all of those bedrooms and bathrooms and a big back yard) and AFTER the kids have moved out (the house with the master bedroom on the main floor and a much smaller yard!). Many people who are changing their housing needs require the home loan services I provide.
As you or those you know find themselves starting-out, scaling-up or scaling-down I am able to be the experienced and trusted “Dream Maker, Problem Solver” to provide the tailor-made home loan solutions – so that no one in your family will find themselves sleeping in a bathtub! Can I count on you to give my name to the next friend, neighbor, co-worker or family member who would benefit from my home loan expertise and hands-on customer care?
Brian Short and AW Pickel – A couple of guys who are good at this business, people like them and they’ve got honest faces!
Twenty years ago a former college buddy of mine invited me to join him in the mortgage industry by telling me, “Brian, you’d be good at this business! People seem to like you, you’ve got an honest face and you’d still be serving people by helping them buy, fix-up and refinance their houses!” A year later I called him up and agreed to come to work with him by opening up a new office for his company in Franklin and thus, I began my new career as a Mortgage Professional.
I worked for his company for several years before eventually starting my own mortgage company and then managing branch offices and divisions for a few other companies and a local bank before I circled back around to, once again, open up a new branch office for my college friend, AW Pickel, in Franklin two years ago.
Now we are teaming up together again to start up a new division for AmCap Mortgage, Ltd, a 15-year-old mortgage lender based in Houston, TX to initially start new branches in Tennessee, Kansas, Missouri and Nebraska. Our group will continue to keep the focus on offering amazing customer service to our borrowers while offering a wide array of home loan programs to help the most people possible. Our industry continues to experience unbelievable changes and it takes a very nimble approach to mortgage lending to keep up with and adapt to those changes. We believe that our association with AmCap Mortgage, Ltd will give us that platform to bring amazing changes to our customers, employees and industry for the better!
Gleaning the best from my past associations to bring with me to our new venture is the best way to describe our passion for smart growth – personally and professionally. However, much hasn’t changed. I’m still working very closely with those who first introduced me to the mortgage industry twenty years ago and I’m still in the business of being that “Dream Maker and Problem Solver” that any prospective home buyer or current home owner needs in their corner when evaluating their home loan financing options.
I’m also looking for hardworking, people-oriented problem solvers to join our team in Tennessee and in other states if you know of those who “would be good at this business, have an honest face, and desire to help those people who like them!” I really appreciate it when you DON’T KEEP ME A SECRET! Your confidence and trust in me is what keeps my steady stream of loans closing. Can I count on you to give my name to the next friend, neighbor, co-worker or family member who would benefit from my home loan expertise and hands-on customer care?
OK, gentlemen. The pressure is on! What to buy your special woman this Valentine’s Day? Flowers die in a week. Chocolates are eaten up in a day or two. Jewelry can only be worn occasionally. This year, why not buy her the HOUSE you both have wanted for years! Great interest rates and new $0 down or low down-payment programs are available for almost any home buyer. Contact me and let me help you know your home financing options. I’m local, licensed, certified and have 17 years of lending experience – Ready to go to work for you or those you know.
Earlier this week I spoke to a prospective borrower who wanted to refinance his house after an unusually long and drawn-out divorce which was finalized in July of this year. He kept the house and she was awarded $25,000 in cash from the “equity” in the house which, I was told, appraised at more than $920,000 one year ago! He “only” owed about $830,000 on his house, so “on paper” this looked like a pretty “fair” arrangement.
The only problem with this “$25K-worth-of-equity-to-the-ex” scenario was that his house is now only reported to be worth about $780,000 on an online home valuation website, or about $50K less than what they collectively owe this house with 5 bathrooms which they bought 7 years ago for only $600,000. His quandary was only further complicated by the fact that he has had a couple of recent business failures and had only just started another new business 3-4 months ago in a very fickle industry. No wife, no income, no business and a house that is pulling him under financially – that he is stuck with! This sounds like another country music song in the making! Hold on….. I’ve got it! “My Home is a Man-Wrecker!” (You heard it here first!)
Last month I attended a legislative work-session in Nashville with a couple of key state legislators and leaders from the housing industry (mortgage brokers, mortgage bankers, home inspectors, appraisers, and Realtors) to meet with an Obama-Harvard-Law-School-classmate-yearbook-toting-attorney-turned-Realtor-from-Illinois who was asking for feedback from several of us in the state regarding this very dilemna – couples (especially women, I assume) being wrecked by their houses after their divorce was finalized. (Yes! She REALLY carried in her yearbook and she was on the same page as the new Prez!)
We were told that too many “newly-single, fresh-starts” tried to hold on to a house which was beyond their means and were emotionally unable to swallow the idea of ditching the “loser” and also having to move, at the same time. The desire to keep the kids in the same school, the dog in the same yard and the satellite dish on the same roof tended to outweigh the conventional wisdom that, in most cases, one less income (even with some child support coming in) can not usually keep up with the same sized house payment. We heard that the problem is that the remaining spouse is usually given 2-3 years to refinance or sell the house and maybe split some equity or to hand over the 401K to the departing spouse in trade for the equity to be realized by the remaining spouse at some time in the future. (Sounds like a great deal, huh?!)
Whoa! How ’bout that for a series of gut-wrenching assumptions in world which has turned topsy-turvey during the last 2 1/2 years! House appreciation, job security, stock market stability, and credit profile integrity. All of these can be uncontrollable variables which will either make it possible or impossible to ever get the departing spouse off of the mortgage – regardless of whether he or she “quit claims” (takes their name off of the house title work) their ownership interest to the remaining spouse. This is a formula for certain financial ruin. Why was it when a young couple stood before “God and in-laws” and promised “til death do us part” that we thought they meant each other rather than the half-million-dollar house they think they should hold on to even when the judge orders them to split it all and move on. (Surely, he didn’t REALLY mean to get rid of the house!)
The Obama classmate was advocating new Tennessee laws to require divorcing couples to get “free” mortgage approvals, home inspections, appraisals, and title searches to protect the remaining spouse from future calamity because of unexpected deterioration of the house, liens against title, over inflated assumptions of value and the inability to qualify for a mortgage – any of which would ruin the hope of making the decision to keep the house a good one. (That 401K or IRA is sounding better and better, even in this market!)
We didn’t all agree about which law would be best or even if new laws were necessary at this point. We all agreed that this was a big risk and all that parties needed to be informed of the dangers of keeping a house after a divorce. We just didn’t agree about what could be done and how much legislation should be piled on an already very litigious process where attorneys and judges are already deeply involved in the personal “affairs” (no pun intended!) of two disappointed adults who thought they could beat the odds and make it through the long haul – with their combined accumulated wealth intact to the end.
It seems to me that couples should usually get rid of the house – especially if there is still a mortgage on the property. Cleaning up that kind of mess is never as easy as one might think and could often take longer than most second marriages last! However, in this period of declining home values, limited credit options and an unstable employment market – buy and selling houses has almost come to a stand-still in some markets. This will cause housing markets to be flooded with inventory and homes to stay on the market longer and longer – bringing down the sales prices of homes which “must sell” to make way for a final divorce decree and marital dissolution agreement. Years of accumulated equity in the family home may be sacrificed and never regained if a home is sold – no matter what. This causes the houses in the surrounding neighborhood to also depreciate in value and should remind all readers that a marriage failure does really hurt the WHOLE community in MANY ways.
In my 10 years of working with home buyers from all walks of life I seldom see one who comes out any better after a divorce. The truth is – we’re all a bunch of rascals and we all blow it, from time to time. Maybe this slow-down in the housing market will give some angry couples the opportunity to “cool down” and think through the consequences of throwing a marriage away while they wait for their house to sell. Maybe they’ll realize that for the sake of their kids, their parents, and their own integrity that they promised “for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health” – not to the house but that one on the other side of their “sleep number” mattress.
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